Lesson 1 Getting to Know Yourself
Don’t Let Anger Be Your Boss
Do you ____ find yourself suddenly feeling angry?
One moment you’re fine, and ____ next moment you’re slamming doors or rolling your eyes at your parents.
Some people may think you just have a bad ____ or are getting too upset about a small problem.
However, these ____ don’t simply come from stress about everyday life.
Where does adolescent anger come from?
As a teen, you may ____ like an adult, but your brain is still growing.
In your brain, there is a part that is responsible for solving problems and controlling your ____
In your teen years, this part is still ____ development.
The changes in your brain lead ____ toward independence, social engagement, and creativity.
____ the same time, however, you may feel confused about who you are.
You may also be more sensitive ____ unfairness.
____ your body is flowing with hormones.
____ significantly affects your mood.
The combination of ____ factors intensifies your strong emotions.
Getting to Know Your Anger
It is ____ to feel angry from time to time; it doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you.
Anger ____ sometimes be a useful tool.
For example, an angry but open conversation can resolve a conflict between ____
The important thing is to manage your anger so that it does not ____ into aggressive or violent behavior.
This does not mean that you ____ stop yourself from feeling angry.
Rather, ____ should express it in a productive way.
Ask yourself some ____ about your angry feelings.
This can help you to ____ understand your anger.
Questions to Ask Yourself
How often ____ I feel angry?
What situations make me feel the ____ intense anger?
Is my anger directed at anyone or ____ in particular?
Do I focus on the causes of my anger instead of ____
Can I control ____ emotions when I get angry?
How do I react and behave when I ____ angry?
First Aid to Calm Yourself Down
You need to learn ____ to deal with anger in a socially appropriate way.
Remember: anger is a feeling, but behavior ____ a choice.
____ first step is recognizing the physical signs of anger.
It is ____ to recognize those signs in advance.
They include an increased heart rate, a ____ face, and the clenching of your fists.
____ these things happen, take action to reduce your anger.
For example, you could try taking a break to organize your ____ or ending a conversation before it gets too intense.
Finding Proper Coping Skills
In some cases, the strategies ____ above may not be enough,
so you may ____ to find proper coping skills for your personal situation.
Without the right coping skills, you may find yourself becoming verbally or even physically ____
Explore various strategies to discover what is best for you, such as taking a walk, ____ a picture, or writing down things that come to your mind.
You can also try to find possible solutions ____ a problem and then compare the advantages and disadvantages of each one.
____ developing problem-solving skills, you will learn that there are many ways to solve a problem without getting angry.
Anger ____ an emotion that we all experience.
By managing your anger properly, you can be the boss of your feelings, not the ____ way around.
This is an important step in finding your ____ self and taking control of your life.